After a blind date, many people get stuck in a dilemma: Does the other person have a good impression of me? Should we take the initiative to invite? When is it appropriate to make an appointment? If the judgment is wrong, either all the efforts will be in vain or the right person will be missed. If the way of inviting is inappropriate, it may even cool down the original good impression. In fact, there are “signals to be found” in the degree of affection after a blind date, and there are “timing and methods” for subsequent invitations. Only by making accurate judgments and appropriate invitations can the blind date relationship proceed smoothly.
After Li Zhe went on a blind date, he wasn’t sure if the other person had a good impression of him until he recalled the details of their meeting: the other person took the initiative to share their childhood fun stories, when they talked about hobbies, they deliberately noted down the band they liked, and when they parted, they even said proactively, “We had a great time chatting today,” and even proposed, “We can go to this band’s livehouse together next time.” These signals made him certain that the other person had a good impression of him. So, on the third day after the blind date ended, he took the initiative to send a message: “Last time you said you wanted to go to the performance of XX Band. I see they have a special show in the city next weekend. Do you want to go together?” The other party agreed quickly. After their second meeting, the relationship between the two heated up rapidly.
After a blind date, to judge the other person’s favorability, one can observe from two aspects: “meeting details” and “subsequent feedback”. Signs of affection when meeting: Take the initiative to share personal content with you (such as family, childhood, and small expectations for the future), make eye contact with you without avoiding it and with a smile, tilt your body towards you (such as facing you sideways or speaking close to you), actively remember your preferences (such as “You said you like spicy food. Next time, I can take you to a Sichuan restaurant”), and when parting, proactively mention the possibility of “meeting next time”.
If the other person keeps their head down playing with their phone throughout the meeting, rarely takes the initiative to speak, avoids your eyes, simply says “Goodbye” when parting, or even doesn’t reply to your messages for a long time after the blind date, it’s highly likely that they don’t have a good impression of you. At this point, there’s no need to force an invitation to avoid making both of you feel awkward.
The key to subsequent invitations lies in “seizing the right moment and clarifying the theme”. When it comes to the timing of the invitation, it is recommended to initiate it within 2 to 3 days after the blind date. Initiating it too early may seem “urgent”, while initiating it too late might make the other person think you are “uninterested”. For instance, if you go on a blind date on Monday and take the initiative to contact each other on Wednesday, it can not only make the other person feel your sincerity but also give both of you time to digest.
When it comes to the way of inviting, it should be “specific and targeted”. Don’t use vague invitations like “Let’s have a meal together when you have time”. Instead, based on the common interests discussed during the blind date, propose clear invitation themes, such as: “Last time you said you like doing handicrafts. I know a pottery studio. We can go there together on weekends to experience making cups.” “You mentioned before that you like camping. My friend recommended a campsite near the suburbs with very complete facilities. Would you like to go there for a weekend together?” ” A specific theme can make the other party feel that you “have carefully remembered her preferences”, and also reduce the probability of her rejection (vague invitations are likely to make the other party hesitate because they “don’t know what to do”).
When making an invitation, it is also necessary to “leave a way out” for the other party. For instance, after making the invitation, add a sentence like “If you have something to do on the weekend, we can also make an appointment at another time” to avoid putting pressure on the other party due to “not being able to keep the appointment”.
Hesitation after a blind date often leads to missing out on possibilities. Only by accurately assessing the degree of affection and taking the initiative to invite in an appropriate way can a blind date relationship transform from a “one-time encounter” into a “long-term companionship”.
