When pursuing a boy, being too “well-behaved” can easily make him treat you as an “ordinary friend”. In fact, creating interaction through some light-hearted “little challenges”, such as playing games together, making bets or doing small things, can show your cuteness and vitality in the fun, making him feel that getting along with you is very interesting and gradually develop a different feeling for you.
Xiaoxin likes the boy Haoran from the neighboring class. Knowing that he enjoys playing mobile games, she took the initiative to approach him and said, “I’ve been practicing mobile games recently but always can’t beat the dungeons. Could you take me along?” If I win, I’ll treat you to milk tea. If I lose, how about you treat me to ice cream?” Haoran thought this challenge was very interesting and agreed to take her to play. During the game, Xiaoxin would sometimes “act cute” and say, “Oh, you’re dead again. Wait for me, okay?” She would also praise Haoran when he won, saying, “You’re so amazing!” After losing, Xiaoxin took the initiative to treat Haoran to ice cream and said with a smile, “I’ll accept my bet. I’ll definitely beat you next time.” After that, the two often made appointments to play games and would also set other small challenges: “Next time in the exam, if I make progress, you accompany me to the library.” If you make progress, I’ll help you organize your notes. Through one small challenge after another, the two got along more and more freely. Haoran even took the initiative to say, “Actually, it’s not bad to lose. I can see you more often.”
Create interaction through small challenges. The key is to be “relaxed, interesting and not too serious”. The content of the challenge should be simple and easy to complete, such as playing games, betting on who gets to the classroom first, or competing to remember words faster. Don’t choose overly complex or stressful tasks. During the process, be “relaxed and don’t be reserved”. For instance, if you lose, you can make a funny face or sing a song; if you win, you can happily dance a bit to show your cuteness and vitality. It’s also necessary to “meet up naturally through challenges”, for instance, “If you win the challenge, I’ll treat you to milk tea. Are you free tomorrow afternoon?” to make the meeting both natural and interesting. In the playful interaction, the distance will quietly narrow and the affection will gradually increase.